Say “No” to Hate


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“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change. Kiss slowly, forgive quickly, play hard, take chances, give everything, and have no regrets. Life is too short to be anything but happy!” – Unknown

Just the other day, I went online to research urological treatment options for cats and I came across a vet med site where other cat owners shared their advice and experiences. As I read down the endless list of back-and-forth comments,  I was appalled.  A subject as benign as “cats with bladder issues” unleashed a barrage of hateful commentary. Rather than giving constructive advice, empathy or encouragement, there were nasty comments like “You gave your cat that medication? You’re an idiot and an irresponsible cat owner!”  And that was one of the nicer comments. These people didn’t even know each other, but were quick to pass judgment – all behind the shield of anonymity, of course.

It never ceases to amaze me how many haters there are out there. Blogs and social media sites like Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn seem to be a breeding ground for these angry people, emboldened by the name “Anonymous.”  Amazingly, I’ve only had one hater comment on this blog – since its inception in October 2011.  I never published the comment, because my policy is to never give a hater any public platform to spew their hate.  Criticism is fine. Venom is not. Sarcasm and dark humor is okay. Crass and ignorant commentary is not okay.

Apparently, hate is not relegated to social media.  Just look at the ridiculous nastiness and vulgarity displayed during the recent GOP presidential debates. Opportunistic presidential nominees are feeding off the anger of  a nation, as the world watches with amazement and disgust.

Now, there is nothing wrong with being angry.  But when anger becomes rage and gives birth to a population of serial haters, then we’ve got a problem, folks. Anger, when properly channeled, can bring about positive change.  Rage is a different animal altogether.  It just festers. It becomes malignant.

The fact of the matter is, Life is too short.

Who in their right mind would choose rage and hate over happiness and love?  Yes, I said “choose.”  It’s all about choice.

Say “No” to hate.  It simply takes up too much energy.  It gives you frown lines and makes you bitter.  It’s like a dark, murky cloud that follows you around everywhere.

I firmly believe that a positive attitude attracts good energy.  So, I say “Yes” to love.  And I’d rather have a face riddled with laugh lines, than frown lines – any day.


Heather  (not “Anonymous”)



“Remember, remember always, that all of us, and you and I especially, are descended from immigrants and revolutionists.” 
― Franklin D. Roosevelt

For many of us, America is our adopted country.  It is not a birthright, but a choice. We chose America and she, in turn, welcomed us into her fold. 

Why choose America?

She is diverse, feisty, outspoken and sassy.

She has fifty states and the federal district of Washington, D.C., as well as several commonwealth territories. Each has its own unique flavor, style, accent and sights. So much to see and discover.

She provides a multitude of opportunities which, in turn, enable us to achieve our wildest dreams… if we dare.

She believes in second chances, allowing us to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off – if and when we fail.

She allows us to reinvent ourselves, again and again.

She is extremely competitive and proud.

She can be very harsh, yet also very kind.

She, like the rest of us, can put her foot in her mouth from time to time… but then apologize wanly and be done with it.

She may have a few flaws, but she tries to do better.

She will always lend a helping hand to other countries, even though her help is not always welcome.

She embraces strangers but you wouldn’t want her as your enemy.

She is stubborn, tough, independent and free.

She is receptive to hearing all opinions, opposing or not, and will agree to disagree.

She advocates freedom and justice.

She is not infallible, but strives to be.

She believes that the only power greater than her, is God.

She doesn’t let insults faze her.

She stands by what she says and what she does.

She is America.

Happy Fourth of July!


(Poem “Why Choose America?” written by Heather Joan Marinos/Copyright © 2013 Heather Joan Marinos – All Rights Reserved.)

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