“Extremists have shown what frightens them most: a girl with a book”
All that rest and relaxation did me a world of good… gave me some perspective.
I’ll start the week with a quote from the founder of Buddhism.
“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear.
Never fear what will become of you.
Depend on no one.
Only the moment you reject all help, are you freed.”
— Hindu Prince Gautauma Siddhartha (Founder of Buddhism, 563-483 BC)
Whether real or imagined, fear is what keeps us from making rational decisions. When we shed our fears, we break free from the emotional and psychological shackles that keep us from doing what we need to do… from being who we need to be.
I have actually made this my own personal mantra.
Greek Actress, Melina Mercouri (Movie “Never on a Sunday“)
“Relax. Refresh. Renew. Play. Sing. Laugh. Enjoy. Forgive. Dance. Love. Hug. Share. Kiss. Create. Explore. Hope. Listen. Dare. Trust. Dream. Learn. TODAY!”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
I have always viewed volunteer workers and non-profit organizations – such as (but not limited to) The World Food Programme, Feeding America and Action Against Hunger/Action Contre La Faim – with deep and profound respect.
It is a difficult and thankless job.
Ahhh, but many of these dedicated men and women don’t view it as a “job”… nor do they expect a pat on the back, let alone an actual “Thank You.”
Imagine, for a moment, what it must feel like to see hardship, hunger, poverty and sickness… day in and day out. Yet, these volunteers press on… hoping, no, praying that they are somehow making a difference, making a dent in this world epidemic that is Hunger.
Imagine what it must feel like to try to recruit people to help… to contribute their time and yes, their money, to a problem that – like it or not – affects us all. So many people (too many) prefer to turn a blind eye. Until it happens to them. And for those raising their eyebrow: it can happen to them. And to you. And to me. It is never wise to be complacent. As we’ve seen with disasters like Hurricanes Sandy and Katrina, it can happen in a flash. Here today, gone tomorrow.
So today marks the last day of my 3½-week Help Fight Hunger book promotion.
To say that I am “disappointed” is a huge understatement, but it will not deter me from continuing to contribute my time and writing to helping others, to raise awareness on important issues that ultimately affect us all, and to hope that someone – anyone – will listen and perhaps even join the effort to help those who need our help.
I’d like to take a moment to thank the family members, friends, and colleagues who have been kindly “spreading the word” on behalf of my Help Fight Hunger campaign. Most importantly, I’d like to express my deep love and gratitude to my husband for putting up with all the intensity.
I hope that I’ve provided you with some informative, thought-provoking blogs on a subject that is discomfiting, but nevertheless very current and critical.
Thanks for reading.
― Heather
Image (t the very top) via erikarachel.com.
“When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”
Of course, in reality it’s not always that simple.
When we shrug our shoulders and “let the chips fall where they may” – without any forethought or plan – we can’t really control the consequences. This is reactive thinking. And, nine out of ten times, we always regret not having planned ahead.
We are human. We make mistakes. We play the odds and miscalculate the results. Sometimes, our innate optimism clouds our thinking and we realize it only too late. And then the unimaginable suddenly becomes very imaginable, very real.
This happened to many middle-class men and women who were unprepared for such a severe and prolonged economic downturn. Jobs were downsized or eliminated. Savings dwindled. Credit card debt soared. Health insurance policies were suspended. Homes foreclosed. Food became a luxury.
In hindsight, what could we have done to prevent this from happening?
None of us expected this economic crisis to last so long, but it did. That was out of our control.
We did, however, have control over how much we spent, how much we consumed, and whether or not we chose to live within our means. Many of us who were not proactive are now chanting “mea culpa, mea culpa.”
Let’s look at each of the problem areas:
(1) Jobs. No job (full-time, part-time, or consultant) is secure. Even a loyal employee, working 25 years in the same company, can get a pink slip…. just like that. It’s important to keep skills honed, stay educated, and cultivate multiple optional career paths/opportunities. When we have back-up options, we are able to counteract the fallout from job loss.
(2) Savings. We must try not to succumb to the mentality of “immediate gratification.” This is a common problem in today’s society. The generation of men and women who lived through the Great Depression would probably be rolling their eyes and shaking their heads at us. We should take our cue from them and exercise a little frugality and self-discipline. Save a portion of each check and don’t touch it unless absolutely necessary. Make sound investments. “Get Rich Quick” schemes are just that: schemes. As my mother used to tell me, “If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.”
(3) Credit Cards. Ideally, we should only use debit cards. Credit cards should be used only on the condition that we pay them off (in full) each month. If we can’t do that, we are buying trouble by digging ourselves into debt. Stay in the black, not the red.
(4) A Roof Over Our Head. Here’s the unsettling reality: if we have a mortgage, we don’t own our home. The bank does. If we can’t pay the mortgage, the bank will take “our home” away from us. We own our home only when we’ve paid the entire loan off. This usually tales years, even decades. The good news is that eventually, we do own our home outright… if we play our cards right. Here’s the caveat: if we choose to get a second mortgage or an equity loan because we want to add a room or renovate a kitchen, then we drive ourselves deeper into debt… making that dream of full home ownership a more distant reality.
(5) Food. Eat wisely. Don’t waste. Be sustainable. Buy fruit trees and grow vegetables… then there will always be food – even when money is scarce.
Remember the adage: “Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.”
If we follow this simple advice, we may not overcome all of our problems, but we will definitely be on a stronger footing.
From Aug 14-Sept 7, purchase a copy of Casualties of the (Recession) Depression, and for every $20 book purchased directly from me, through my website, I will be donating $5 from the proceeds of each book sale to either: Feeding America (US), Action Against Hunger (Canada), or The World Food Programme (Global). The purchaser chooses one of the three. As I’ve stated before and clearly state on my website, this promotion does not apply to books purchased from third party distributors, such as Amazon or Barnes & Noble.
“He looked at the piles of food again, and it was like he was seeing it with new eyes. “This is wrong”, he thought, “Letting food rot while people die of hunger. It’s evil.”….
He breathed in the too-sweet smell of rotting food, “I can stop this evil.”― Margaret Peterson Haddix, Among the Enemy
Image via tillhecomes.org.
“I’m not doing my philanthropic work, out of any kind of guilt, or any need to create good public relations. I’m doing it because I can afford to do it, and I believe in it.”
Photo by dekalegitarist.
“She walked briskly out of the supermarket. The aisles of food and the smell of fresh fruit and vegetables had made her light-headed. She had spent two dollars on a dozen eggs and some bread and only had ten dollars left in her purse – in quarters. She passed by a man who was standing near a bench by the store entrance. He was tall, thin, about thirty-something, dressed in clean jeans and a t-shirt, and was African American. He was asking people for money to buy some food. She glanced at him, mumbled “Sorry, I can’t” and continued walking.
Then, something in her sub-conscious made her stop and turn around. He was sitting on the bench, his head in his hands. She noticed something that she recognized only too well. Despair. She reached into her purse and counted five dollars worth of quarters (half of what she had left to last her for the next two weeks) and she walked back to the man and said “Excuse me sir, but here is five dollars in quarters. I hope this will help tide you over.” He looked at her. She could hear the intake of his breath. His eyes were clear and intelligent. He stood up and thanked her, very earnestly and with respect. Their eyes met and he understood. They were the same.”
― from the vignette “The Kindness of Strangers” – pp. 52-53 of Casualties of the (Recession) Depression, by Heather Joan Marinos
(Copyright © 2013 by Heather Joan Marinos – All Rights Reserved)
From Aug 14-Sept 7, purchase a copy of Casualties of the (Recession) Depression, and for every $20 book purchased directly from my website, I will be donating $5 from the proceeds of each book sale to either: Feeding America (US), Action Against Hunger (Canada), or The World Food Programme (Global). The purchaser chooses one of the three.
Image (of hands) via dosomething.org.
“Reducing household food insecurity, and the poverty that underlies it, is a win-win situation. It is a win for people facing low income, and for Canada as a whole. One does not need to look far to find many libraries worth of evidence that poverty is a key negative influence on health. Reducing low income leads to better health, which leads to higher levels of economic participation and lower costs related to health care and social services.”
— Food Banks Canada, Hunger Count 2012
Here is the hunger news from our northern neighbors, and my “Home and Native Land” …
The Numbers:
According to Food Banks Canada:
The Solutions:
Food Banks Canada recommends some small policy changes that will help rectify some of the root causes of hunger and poverty:
For more solutions, itemized in the Say No To Hunger campaign petition(sponsored by Food Banks Canada), go to:
http://www.saynotohunger.ca/SayNoToHunger/Our-Solution.aspx
Canadians, you may want to consider signing the petition!
“If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one.”
They don’t have the power of money or celebrity to back them up. Nor do they receive any payment or compensation for what they do. Self-gratification is not their ulterior motive.
They are simply ordinary people who do extraordinary things… to help others − for no other reason than love and respect for humanity.
These are the people who…
… save their leftover food from their restaurant meal, so they may give it to the person standing outside… that hungry person who’s seen better times but who, for one reason or another, finds himself down and out.
… volunteer their time to work in community outreach programs.
… make daily visits to elderly neighbors who live alone, just to make sure that they are okay and to give them a little caregiving and companionship.
… regularly help out at the food banks and missions.
… notice that an exhausted single mother, trying to do it all, may need a little assistance with carpooling, babysitting, or a few ready-made meals that she can freeze and reheat later.
… sense that a friend may be going through hard times, and invite him/her over for dinner each week.
… teach their children kindness and empathy towards others.
The list is endless.
These are the people who, although not labeled as “activists”, are quietly making a difference in the lives of others.
One person at a time.
From Aug 14-Sept 7, purchase a copy of Casualties of the (Recession) Depression, and for every $20 book purchased directly from my website, I will be donating $5 from the proceeds of each book sale to either: Feeding America (US), Action Against Hunger (Canada), or The World Food Programme (Global). The purchaser chooses one of the three.
Image (of hands) via mysuccessprinciples.com.