New Year’s Revelation No. 2 of 7: Humility is attractive, and Arrogance… not so much

 

“Be careful not to mistake insecurity and inadequacy for humility! Humility has nothing to do with the insecure and inadequate! Just like arrogance has nothing to do with greatness!” 
― C. JoyBell C.

 

The very humble among us do not advertise that they are humble.  Their innate humility precludes them from doing so.  All too often, humility is mistaken for low self-esteem.  People who are, by nature, humble… possess the instinctive wisdom to recognize that they are but a small microcosm  of a very big world. They go about their lives, quietly doing their part to contribute to this planet, to make a difference. The thing is, they are not in the least interested in receiving praise  or accolades for their efforts and accomplishments. Theirs is a quiet power ― filled with purpose, not vanity or ego.  Theirs is a simple creed: Observe. Listen. Above all, learn.

As history will attest, these are the people who don’t aspire to greatness. Many of them simply are. Aside from the obvious biblical reference, one figure immediately comes to mind:  Mahatma Gandhi.

By contrast, the arrogant who strut among us believe that the sun rises and sets on their very existence. They want to be heard, but don’t care to listen. They do not seek more knowledge because they believe they know it all. They have all the answers. Their own hubris makes them deaf and blind.  

As history will attest, these are the people who are felled by their own arrogance. And when they fall, they fall hard. There are many historical figures and world leaders who come to mind, more recently: Richard Nixon.

Yes, there are those who are, by nature, humble. Then there are others who have learned how to be humble, through hard lessons and life experiences. 

Personally, I fall into the latter category – learned humility. That said, I am ashamed to admit that I have had my share of arrogant moments, in the course of my life.  It’s a work in progress. 

I guess we are all a Work in Progress…

Cheers,

heatherfromthegrove

“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.” 

― Mahatma Gandhi (born: 1869-10-02 died: 1948-01-30 at age: 78)

New Year’s Revelation No. 1 of 7: Today is Tomorrow

 “Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday.”

― Ann BrasharesThe Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 

So let’s make it count.

Happy New Year, everyone!  It’s a brand new day, day one (of 365)! We’ve pressed the “Refresh” button and now we can begin a new chapter in our lives ― with fresh perspective, good intentions, and positive energy.

There are three basic ways to approach the New Year:

1.  Let the chips fall where they may.

Make no resolutions, no plans.  Just wing it.  See what life brings.  Be reactive, not proactive.  Deal with problems, as they arise.  Live in the moment. Don’t think about tomorrow (or that tomorrow, “tomorrow” will actually be “today”).

2. Micromanage yourself, your time, your life.

Make resolutions, with the intention of keeping them.  Plan every month, every week, every day of your year (because, of course, everything is set in stone and nothing or no one will thwart your plans).

3. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst and, take time to enjoy your life.

Resolve to learn from past mistakes.  Draw strength and confidence from past triumphs. Make a plan, but keep it flexible.  Life has a way of upsetting the apple cart, so be prepared to make some contingency plans (usually referred to as Plan B)… just in case.  You’ll fare much better if you are proactive, rather than reactive. Above all, leave time (each and every day) to savour your life and those around you. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m  taking approach #3.  

Best of success to each and every one of you!

Now, it’s time to begin.

Cheers,

heatherfromthegrove

(Photo credit:  via weheartit.com, by Samara Freire)

So long, 2013… it’s been a slice

“Drop the last year into the silent limbo of the past. Let it go, for it was imperfect, and thank God that it can go.”

Brooks Atkinson

This was a very tumultuous year for many, including myself.  Lots of dark, threatening clouds. Yet, like a rainbow peeking through the sky after a surprise sun shower, the light managed to shine through… every once in a while.  Kind of like reconnecting with a very dear old sister friend who has come back into my stratosphere after a seven-year absence.  My arms are wide open. 

That said, I will not be sorry to see the last of 2013.  Although, for me, 2014 will involve (to some degree) cleaning up the mess of 2013, I will still embrace 2014 wholeheartedly. 

Dearest readers, thank you so much for reading, following and liking my blogs!   Many blessings for 2014 and may tonight’s New Year’s Eve celebration be filled with laughter, good food, plenty of bubbly libation, and the company of those you hold dear!

And, as always, a very special shout-out to my family and friends across the globe.

Stay tuned tomorrow for the first of my annual seven New Year’s Revelations (not to be confused with resolutions!).  And a new chapter begins ….

“We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”

Edith Lovejoy Pierce

CHEERS!

heatherfromthegrove

for Auld Lang Syne

♦ ♦ ♦ By John Masey Wright (1777–1866, artist) John Rogers (c. 1808-c. 1888, engraver) Adam Cuerden (1979–, restorationist) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons ♦ ♦ ♦

In previous years, I posted my “for Auld Lang Syne” blogs to commemorate those who have passed away.  This year, however, I decided to make it a celebration of the living —  those dear family, friends and acquaintances who have shared part of our history and who have created memories with us.

These are the people who have laughed and cried with us, played and fought, shared food, drink and stories…  all in good times, and in bad.  Some have come into our lives for only a chapter or two, but – wow – we had a blast!  Others have stayed the course.  And, a select few have been there from the beginning and will likely remain until the very end. 

We must bow our heads in fervent, heartfelt appreciation for each and every one of them.

This beloved Scottish poem,  written by Robert Burns in 1788 and now a traditional folk song that many of us play (and sing along to) when ushering in a New Year at the stroke of midnight, is really about these “auld acquaintances” whom we shall never forget.  We celebrate them (and us)… for old time’s sake.  Robert Burns (imagine the delightful Scottish burr) articulates the sentiment far better than I:

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
and never brought to mind? Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
and auld lang syne?

CHORUS:

For auld lang syne, my jo,
for auld lang syne,
we’ll tak a cup o’ kindness yet,
for auld lang syne.

And surely ye’ll be your pint-stowp!
and surely I’ll be mine! And we’ll tak a cup o’ kindness yet,
for auld lang syne.

CHORUS

We twa hae run about the braes,
and pu’d the gowans fine;
But we’ve wander’d mony a weary fit,
sin auld lang syne.

CHORUS

We twa hae paidl’d i’ the burn,
frae morning sun till dine;
But seas between us braid hae roar’d
sin auld lang syne.

CHORUS

And there’s a hand, my trusty fiere!
and gie’s a hand o’ thine!
And we’ll tak a right gude-willy waught,
for auld lang syne.

CHORUS

2013 Tribute

Peter O’Toole  in the 1962 film, Lawrence of Arabia

(Wikimedia Commons)

As 2013 draws to a close, I compiled this roster of my favorite iconic figures who have passed away this year.  In life, they graced us with their genius and charm. They leave behind a legacy in film, music and literary accomplishments, on stage, and as inspirational political leaders and activists.

Reflecting on Grace

“All the natural movements of the soul are controlled by laws analogous to those of physical gravity. Grace is the only exception. Grace fills empty spaces, but it can only enter where there is a void to receive it, and it is grace itself which makes this void. The imagination is continually at work filling up all the fissures through which grace might pass.” 
― Simone WeilGravity and Grace

For many people, myself included, this has been a difficult year. Despite that, I’ve come to the realization that all of the year’s blessings, though considerably less in number than the hardships, are (one-by-one) mightier (in force) than all the challenges combined.  

The few blessings have given me hope, solace and joy. 

The few blessings have somehow managed to outweigh all the pain and suffering.

The few blessings have made me deeply grateful.

The lesson to be learned is that “Grace fills the empty spaces.”  The blessings I’ve received this year are nothing short of pure grace.

In the spirit of this holiday season, count all of your blessings.  The challenges come and go. The blessings, however, have staying power.

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 Note: the pictures are of “Ollie” — I rescued this abandoned kitten <she was 5 hours old, see photo at the very top> and she is now a little over 3 months old <photo above>, and thriving. 

She is my greatest blessing of 2013.

“A cat has absolute emotional honesty: human beings, for one reason or another, may hide their feelings, but a cat does not.”

Ernest Hemingway

Photos: Copyright © 2013 by Heather Joan Marinos. All Rights Reserved

In Search of Mayberry

When I was growing up, we lived in a community where doors were kept unlocked at night and windows were left wide open (to let the brisk, cool air in).  There was never a fleet of SUVs and cars in front of the elementary and middle schools.  As children, we used to walk the few blocks (or take the school bus) to go to school. There were no predators lying in wait.  Neighbors knew their neighbors.  When a family was going through a tragedy or rough time, the neighbors – and, indeed, the entire community – got together and would rally around and offer their kindness and support. Police officers and sheriffs protected us as fiercely as family, if the need arose (although these crises happened so rarely back then).  In our neighborhood, these men in blue or brown lived among us, friends to our parents,  their children were our buddies.

Back then, the internet did not exist.  No one worried about things like identity theft or hackers.  There was less room for “he said”, “she said” scenarios.  Everyone knew where the lines in the sand were drawn.  Everything was much less complicated.

Does Mayberry exist?  Or, is it indeed a fictional place,  immortalized in a television show?

Recent events in my life have made me skeptical. And distressed.  If you read my “Neighborly Love” blog  (March 28, 2013), you will learn about the horrible burglary that occurred on our property just before Easter.  Recently, we were informed by our dear neighbors (who, sadly, are always the unfortunate bearers of bad news) that the same thieves have struck again… but, this time, they have become more sophisticated, more organized…. assuming our identity.   Our neighbors (who are community-minded, compassionate, and fiercely loyal) rallied on our behalf – once again.  Since we live at the other end of the country and couldn’t handle this crisis in person, they tried to keep the thieves from removing a vehicle from our property.  The authorities were called to the scene and our neighbors were harshly admonished for getting involved.  It appears that the authorities were believing the authenticity of the thieves’ story and fake documentation.

This would not have happened in Mayberry.

Thank goodness, there was enough “reasonable doubt” to make the authorities pause and take note.  The battle of “he said”, “she said” still continues.  I am determined to keep the Grinch from stealing Christmas.  Not another spoiled holiday.  Not again.  This has to stop.

To the thieves:  You will be caught. Maybe not today, or tomorrow. Maybe sometime next year. But you will be apprehended and brought to justice, for preying on people in our neighborhood and God knows how many other neighborhoods.

To the authorities:  We realize that today’s society has made all of us somewhat jaded.  We and our neighbors are not the bad guys.  Please leave no stone unturned.  These thieves are organized. And they are laughing at all of us, as they sell our tools, valuables, household items and vehicles.  They are preying on our weaknesses and absence.  They are smirking as they assume our identities, through falsified documents.  They are making a mockery of all of us. This ring of thieves needs to be stopped.

To our neighbors: As people of faith, we bow our heads to God, in gratitude for having neighbors such as yourselves. Your integrity, compassion and perseverance are inspiring, and humbling.  It makes me believe in the possibility of finding Mayberry.  And when we do find that small, communal town, we hope that you will move there as well.

After all, isn’t it the neighbors who make Mayberry what it is?

Christmas Blessings,

Heather

(Picture taken in 2005)

Nelson Mandela: an inspiration, not only to South Africa, but to the whole world

inMemoriam

“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

Nelson Mandela (from his autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom)

NELSON   ROLIHLAHLA   MANDELA

b. July 18, 1918 / d. December 5, 2013

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R.I.P.

On Gratitude

 

Feeling Good

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more… It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  Melody Beattie

 

Thank you for following my blog, reading the posts…  and to those of you just passing through… thank you for stopping by!

Cheers,

Heather xo

 

 

Image via charlottesheart.com.

 

Random Acts of Kindness: Paying for People’s Groceries

 Groceries
For those of you who have ever found it challenging, at one time or another,  to “make ends meet” and for those of you who understand the concept of random acts of kindness… watch this video (click on the link, below)
 
 
Very apropos, given the Thanksgiving season and upcoming Christmas holidays. 
Kindness.  It IS the gift that keeps on giving.